While watching Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind I started thinking and I answered one of the questions that runs through my mind. Why are there moments when nothing is happening? (by this I mean there seems to be no progression or action for a duration of time.)
A few hours of a day and a day or two of a month, nothing seems to happen. The tough answer is the reason there is lag time exists because otherwise life would fit into a two hour movie or a three hundred page novel.
But I prefer to take things like Mary Poppins, you take everything with a little sugar. Maybe your life is not going as fast as you would like, during those times reflect on the busy moments or just stop and do something that you enjoy. The first step would be to understand that there will just be times when you will be at a stand still, or maybe even digressing from your path. Once you are fine that the world is not going to come to you all in one day, calm down and enjoy the freedom of time and prepare for a time when that will go too fast.
My reason: Sometimes it is necessary. I have had a hard time accepting that I have to much time on my hands. I pin a good amount of it on the traits from my father, my learned fear of being alone. I am slowly taking my free time back from my fears. Which as it turns out is the best way to feel less alone.
I have been able to accept that my free time is for me to enjoy my life. I do not need people around to feel important. A good amount of my friends are convinced based not interest based. Convinced based friends are fine and good but they do not fulfill essential growth processes. Convince based friends help to build a self, Interest based friends define and develop favored traits that you decided yourself. A good mix of both may be best.
Free time can be used to help you advance to where you want to be. Take it how you must: carpe deim, smell the roses, don’t worry be happy…
-NK
